Before We Begin A Few Suggestions


The collection of writings assembled on this website are intended to be a companion to the steps that are suggested by many recovery groups. And well, some do say that these steps are “suggested” in the same way that, if you were to jump out of an airplane with a parachute, it is “suggested” that you pull the ripcord to save your life.

Ok, perhaps that’s true for some, but it’s been our experience that it’s simply not our job to tell anyone what to believe or not believe. You have a mind of your own. What’s being shared here is only what we’ve become convinced of, only what we have tested and confirmed. What we share with you here are some suggestions in a strategic order to help you discover who you really are and your place in this world.

This is just a map that places an “X” over the spot for you to start digging. It will help you increase your recognition of some timeless truths. With this awareness, you will much more likely to be at peace and there will be a new sense of belonging. The feeling of emptiness and loneliness will slowly disappear. You will be less likely to be controlled by what once concerned you so you will be more likely to act with courage, integrity and dignity. Worry, guilt, and regret about your past will diminish and eventually fade away. You will be aware enough not to repeat any abusive behavior towards yourself and others.

Its extremely likely that by doing the 12 Steps you will know a new love and acceptance for yourself and towards others. You will feel genuinely lovable, loving and loved. You will learn to see yourself as an equal to others; not above or below anyone else. The need to control and manipulate others will disappear as you learn to trust those who are trustworthy. You will discover how to trust your inner guidance and therefore come to believe in your capabilities. Gradually you will experience serenity, strength, and spiritual growth every day in your life.

So if you want any or all of this, it is available to you. It’s never too late to have a new life and all that is needed to help you arrive there is:

  • Honesty
  • Open-Mindedness
  • Willingness

Also, it will be very helpful to have someone who has also traveled this spiritual journey to discuss what’s going on. Their role is not be a physiatrist, a guru, substitute parent, or messiah. No, this person just is here to help hold the mirror up long enough for you to see your part in the situation, and to share their experience, strength, and hope when needed. You may not know anyone at this time who would qualify and that’s ok for now. That part will come together if that’s what you desire.

You see, this material on this website is written in a way that you can make progress even when there is not a person immediately available to be a guide. Reading blog posts and personal stories or watching videos will kick start your plan of action, help you move along. And if anything sticks, you will start seeking someone who will help when needed. There is an old saying that when the student is ready, the teacher will appear, or maybe in this case it should be, “When the student is ready, the lesson’s will be studied.” If you are wondering if that time will ever come, by reading this far it’s likely that you are ready to get your life back now. Once that happens, you will be better equipped to actualize your dreams.

What we will escort you through is strategically laid out in a logical order. It’s a proven spiritual solution for suffering. Something that has been done for over 70 years. However, the message here has been deliberately written in way that’s more general than you will find elsewhere. That’s because we want to be an introduction or a complimentary commentary. We want to encourage you to find a group that gets specific about addressing your primary concern. If you need some assistance getting connected, there are links here. It will help to have people who have themselves conquered the same problem to consult. And you will be able to help others as you progress. When that happens, you will know that the struggle has not been in vain. Some call this “falling upward”. That’s when you will really get it into your head and your heart that life is not all about you.