There is so much going on in the world. Messages around us that are affecting us without much if any awareness. Often this constant one-way communication is to stimulate us into making a purchase of a product, but sometimes we are buying a message. That we need or deserve something and if we don’t acquire it, we are lacking. So it can be all too easy sometimes to buy into the illusion of being insignificant or less than others who have what we desire.
We may see large corporations or institutions, celebrities or successful people in our community, and compare ourselves to them, thinking that their fame or material power affirm how little our own lives amount to. But nothing could be further from the truth.
Perhaps you are aware that on some level you believe your life does not matter. If this thought resonates within you, maybe it is time to explore why you feel this way. You may have formed self-rejecting or belittling beliefs as a child. Perhaps you misunderstood that humility is humiliation and therefore self-deprecating was a means to sincerity. Maybe if you conformed in difficult circumstances to keep yourself safe or to help you make sense of confusing situations. You may have felt unseen or unheard and decided that there was something wrong with you, rather than recognizing that the problem was more so with the self-absorption of the people around you. Spend some time looking into where these feelings of insignificance first took root, and see what changes you might be able to make in your life- which is always rooted in your thinking and emotions.
This one belief in your own unimportance could be limiting you and impacting your life in enormous ways. When you shift your perceptions around your own ability to affect your life and impact the world, you may discover wonderful parts of yourself that you had long ago forgotten. There may even be exciting new parts that you never even knew existed. When you gain awareness of how much your life really does matter, new sources of inspiration can emerge and your sense of connection with the world is renewed.
Emotional and intellectual isolation is unhealthy. Loneliness does not come from having no-one around you, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to yourself, or from holding certain views which others find unacceptable. Change your thinking to knowing that your life matters and that you are important. That all other people are valuable too. Look more for similarities instead of differences. Meeting people where the are at intellectually and emotionally is foundational for discovering that life is not all about you but does include you. Your interpretations of what stimulates your head and heart are critical. Your perceptions are your reality.
So if you want a higher quality of life, you need to stop taking everything so personally because everyone sees the world personally. We are all self-centered to some degree and to what amount that selfishness exists, do we each suffer. But please don’t misinterpret this as a reason to become a martyr for the world to acknowledge because that’s just pride wearing a different costume. You can speak your mind but express yourself without the intention of winning.